第9章 生活的真谛

What Is Life

佚名/Anonymous

生活不是积分。

你有多少朋友或你受大家欢迎的程度与它无关。

这个周末你是佳人有约还是独自度过与它无关。

你现在正与谁约会，你曾经与谁约会，又与多少人约会，或者你有没有与谁约会，都与它无关。

你曾吻过谁，与它无关。

它也与两性问题无关。

它不是关于谁是你的家人，他们有多少钱。

或者你开哪种车。

你在哪儿上学。

你有多漂亮或多丑陋与它无关。

你穿什么样的衣服，有什么样的鞋子，听哪种类型的音乐，都与它无关。

你的头发是金色、红色、黑色或者棕色，或者你的肤色太白还是太黑，都与它无关。

你得了多少分，你有多聪明，别人认为你有多聪明，或者智力标准测试告诉你有多聪明，与它无关。

它不是把你各方面的情况写在一张纸上，然后看谁会“接受书面上的你”，它不是这样。

生活是你爱谁和你伤害了谁的问题。

是关于你故意逗谁开心或惹谁生气的问题。

是关于遵守诺言或者背信弃义的问题。

是关于友谊，把友谊当做一种圣洁还是利用的武器的问题。

是关于你所说的及其用意，也许使人痛苦，也许振奋人心的问题。

是关于散布谣言和捏造谈资。

是关于你做出的判断及其缘由，还有，你对谁做出的判断。

是关于你对谁带着绝对控制和某些意图的忽视。

是关于嫉妒、恐惧、愚昧和报复。

是关于内心深处的恨和爱、释怀和蔓延。

最重要的是，它是关于你的生活使他人的心灵受到触动还是毒害，这样你的心不再独自悲欢。

只要你选择了触动他人的心灵，这些选择便是生活的全部。

Life isn't about keeping score.

It's not about how many friends you have or how accepted you are.

Not about if you have plans this weekend or if you're alone.

It isn't about who you're dating， who you used to date， how many people you've dated， or if you haven't been with anyone at all.

It isn't about who you have kissed.

It's not about sex.

It isn't about who your family is or how much money they have.

Or what kind of car you drive.

Or where you are sent to school.

It's not about how beautiful or ugly you are.

Or what clothes you wear， what shoes you have on， or what kind of music you listen to.

It's not about if your hair is blonde， red， black， or brown or if your skin is too light or too dark.

Not about what grades you get， how smart you are， how smart everybody else thinks you are， or how smart standardized tests say you are.

It's not about representing your whole being on a piece of paper and seeing who will "accept the written you". Life just isn't.

But， life is about who you love and who you hurt.

It's about who you make happy or unhappy purposefully.

It's about keeping or betraying trust.

It's about friendship， used as a sanctity or a weapon.

It's about what you say and what you mean， maybe hurtful， maybe heartening.

It's about starting rumors and contributing to petty gossip.

It's about what judgments you pass and why. And who your judgment are spread to.

It's about who you've ignored with full control and intention.

It's about jealousy， fear， ignorance and revenge.

It's about carrying inner hate and love， letting it grow， and spreading it.

But most of all， it's about using your life to touch or poison other people's hearts in such a way that could have never occurred alone.

Only you choose the way those hearts are affected， and those choices are what life's all about.